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Bomi Njoloza

Writer, performance poet, closet photographer and religious reader. Author of The Colour of Love, butterfly, desert flower, Projekt23 ambassador, and lover at large. -Before enlightenment, wash the dishes. After enlightenment, wash the dishes. ~ Unknown

Beyond the Surface

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Beyond the Surface

I’ve always wondered why women shave their legs. Who do leg hairs bother? They warm you in winter and, with the help of sweat glands, cool you in summer – if anything, they’re a win! Every time the question of shaving legs boggled my mind, the rich assumption that silky smooth legs seem to be more a need that bread on tables would settle me. It makes sense; hairy legs are not always a good look.

You may think this is petty but good looks are fundamental! Here’s proof; most ladies are perfectly content eating 2-minute noodles for dinner every night than not have their monthly supply of lip gloss or mascara. Or better/worst yet, most would rather go a month or two without groceries than not have their 100% human hair weave (with a fringe) and holding spray. If there’s change after hair treatment, one then throws in cheap foundation, tweezers and an eye pencil… then the artistry begins.

I personally don’t shave my legs.  On some days, I look at them, my legs, think about my destiny and wonder if my legs are strong enough for the weight on my shoulders, or whether they are wise enough to know which obstacles to overtake and which to hurdle over. Legs, shaved or not, are no good if they can’t carry you to your tomorrows, right?

So I often look at them, my legs, brush them (and my leg hairs) gently, and thank God that I even have them.

What are the real issues, though? Why do women feel, so strongly, the need to improve or enhance their appearance? Could it be that we misunderstand beauty? Isn’t beauty from within? I always say, if a smile can’t enhance your beauty, no amount of makeup can. Many believe this to be true, they nod their heads in agreement while waving blush brushes over their suddenly rosy cheeks and reaching for their lip liners.

Beyond shaving legs and weaving hair, perhaps we need to spend time shaving the surface of our souls. This shaving experience would rid us of the things that prevent us from seeing the true beauty of our being.

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    Well written Ms Bomi. I think we are living in a time were the world, Hollywood to be precise, (since we have allowed them access in to our lives, especially our daily moral choices) has unanimously agreed on one universal “standard” of beauty. And you know w@ that is, an anorexic being of sorts (I guess in Africa with our bread and water issues, let’s call it a malnutritioned being of sorts, one can’t possibly be diagnosed with anorexia in Africa, not possible for now at least) back to the issue @ hand. You have to give it to Hollywood/”the world”, for they’ve come up with ways of assisting all women in reaching this universal standard of beauty, there’s mousse, shaving blades, concealer, lip gloss (give me my zam buk pls), bio-oil, diets, gym and if you are quite unlucky & you find yourself having hit the scale of beauty quite low, there’s nip & tuck. I consider people who identify problems & also suggest solutions to the identified problems, to be great leaders. I personally detest people who bring up problems & don’t suggest a possible single solution at all. In this regard, I commend Hollywood for the innumerable solutions it has created for those whom their creator upon their creation was not too sympathetic about the fact that His masterpiece will not meet the universal standard of beauty.

    Let me cut to point, before I go on about how medical research is not advancing fast enough as it has no “interested” funders as funders are putting money in cosmetic research which has proved to be a lucrative venture. Where’s the AIDS cure? Hair removal laser technology is an urgent priority.

    In my view, things are the way they are because the idea is that our focus needs to shift, well it has shifted, shifted from fundamental issues such as what is the content of your character? Today it is permissible to lack, no actually it is permissible to be impoverished of honour, integrity, ethics, persistence, humility, etc. as long as you are “hot” mind you that’s a temperature, so long as you are ‘sizzling’ you therefore, are good enough to love, befriend, employ sometimes even to lead.

    The end result is thus, since we get into relationships based on looks ONLY, we find ourselves in relationships that are not fulfilling, relationships that are empty for our focus has shifted. When we realise the obvious, that we are unfulfilled(miserable!!!!) we do the most “natural”, we walk away without a try, no persistence whatsoever!! Hence, the alarming divorce rate which has resulted in the great cancer in our social fabric, the decay of the family unit.

    We have all stopped to care, to care even about our own character forget the next person’s. No one makes a new year’s resolution to: be more honest, be patient, be polite, be kind, be gracious, refrain from profane language, tell the truth, eat humble pie, be pure, be more like God or be just a plain nice person whose vocabulary is inundated with “thank you”, “please”, “may I”, “congratulations”, “how may I help you?”, etc. The idea is to destroy society at its core, the family unit. One can actually write a book titled “how looks killed love and all His fruits.

    If we continue to focus on the unfulfilling things, by the time we realise what we spent our lives on was and is worthless, it will be too late as our lives would have fled in our eyes whilst we were in pursuit of unattainable beauty and sadly our descendants would already be part of the vicious chain and they too will be pursuing ashes like we did.

    Ya Bomi, that’s it my friend. In light of this I’m going to work today with just lip balm, no mousse, no eyeliner nor mascara, hope to turn heads, actually I will do it this whole week.

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    This takes after the axiom “keep it real” or conversationally stated “I’m keeping it real”-enough said. This we all agree with…because deep down each of us would like our lives to cohere with our baser design and our pursuit of Self-actualisation.

    This purports to the a society wide “identity crisis” and not accepting ones self, but not to dogmatically draw the lines between those who shave as knowing and accepting themselves, and those that wear weaves and shave being “fake”. This depends on a person to person’s definition of these broad life themes of identity and acceptance and an individual’s introspection and conviction thereafter.

    I would skew this post if I only saw the problem as resonating from within and not also being probagated by external influencial factors such as friends, family, the media and as mentioned earlier, our pursuit of self-actualisation, which “indocrinate” and “socialise” us through a myraid of mechanism including the Four P’s of Marketing.

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  • ndalamamaliseha

    Well written Ms Bomi. I think we are living in a time were the world, Hollywood to be precise, (since we have allowed them access in to our lives, especially our daily moral choices) has unanimously agreed on one universal “standard” of beauty. And you know w@ that is, an anorexic being of sorts (I guess in Africa with our bread and water issues, let’s call it a malnutritioned being of sorts, one can’t possibly be diagnosed with anorexia in Africa, not possible for now at least) back to the issue @ hand. You have to give it to Hollywood/”the world”, for they’ve come up with ways of assisting all women in reaching this universal standard of beauty, there’s mousse, shaving blades, concealer, lip gloss (give me my zam buk pls), bio-oil, diets, gym and if you are quite unlucky & you find yourself having hit the scale of beauty quite low, there’s nip & tuck. I consider people who identify problems & also suggest solutions to the identified problems, to be great leaders. I personally detest people who bring up problems & don’t suggest a possible single solution at all. In this regard, I commend Hollywood for the innumerable solutions it has created for those whom their creator upon their creation was not too sympathetic about the fact that His masterpiece will not meet the universal standard of beauty.

    Let me cut to point, before I go on about how medical research is not advancing fast enough as it has no “interested” funders as funders are putting money in cosmetic research which has proved to be a lucrative venture. Where’s the AIDS cure? Hair removal laser technology is an urgent priority.

    In my view, things are the way they are because the idea is that our focus needs to shift, well it has shifted, shifted from fundamental issues such as what is the content of your character? Today it is permissible to lack, no actually it is permissible to be impoverished of honour, integrity, ethics, persistence, humility, etc. as long as you are “hot” mind you that’s a temperature, so long as you are ‘sizzling’ you therefore, are good enough to love, befriend, employ sometimes even to lead.

    The end result is thus, since we get into relationships based on looks ONLY, we find ourselves in relationships that are not fulfilling, relationships that are empty for our focus has shifted. When we realise the obvious, that we are unfulfilled(miserable!!!!) we do the most “natural”, we walk away without a try, no persistence whatsoever!! Hence, the alarming divorce rate which has resulted in the great cancer in our social fabric, the decay of the family unit.

    We have all stopped to care, to care even about our own character forget the next person’s. No one makes a new year’s resolution to: be more honest, be patient, be polite, be kind, be gracious, refrain from profane language, tell the truth, eat humble pie, be pure, be more like God or be just a plain nice person whose vocabulary is inundated with “thank you”, “please”, “may I”, “congratulations”, “how may I help you?”, etc. The idea is to destroy society at its core, the family unit. One can actually write a book titled “how looks killed love and all His fruits.

    If we continue to focus on the unfulfilling things, by the time we realise what we spent our lives on was and is worthless, it will be too late as our lives would have fled in our eyes whilst we were in pursuit of unattainable beauty and sadly our descendants would already be part of the vicious chain and they too will be pursuing ashes like we did.

    Ya Bomi, that’s it my friend. In light of this I’m going to work today with just lip balm, no mousse, no eyeliner nor mascara, hope to turn heads, actually I will do it this whole week.

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  • An advert.

    This takes after the axiom “keep it real” or conversationally stated “I’m keeping it real”-enough said. This we all agree with…because deep down each of us would like our lives to cohere with our baser design and our pursuit of Self-actualisation.

    This purports to the a society wide “identity crisis” and not accepting ones self, but not to dogmatically draw the lines between those who shave as knowing and accepting themselves, and those that wear weaves and shave being “fake”. This depends on a person to person’s definition of these broad life themes of identity and acceptance and an individual’s introspection and conviction thereafter.

    I would skew this post if I only saw the problem as resonating from within and not also being probagated by external influencial factors such as friends, family, the media and as mentioned earlier, our pursuit of self-actualisation, which “indocrinate” and “socialise” us through a myraid of mechanism including the Four P’s of Marketing.

    MH

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