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The price of a woman’s love

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by Bonny-Blue

The price of a chicken, the price of bread, the price of petrol…the price of a woman’s love…yes every woman has a price and this has nothing to do with prostitution…If you didn’t know that a woman has a price to her love (and I’m not talking dowry/Lobolo) then your paradigms must shift, even Jonny Bravo knows that to get a woman’s undivided attention he ought to impress her.

At least most men have lost the very essence that got most of our forefathers together and kept them together for that matter!  Brothers don’t even make an effort to woo those that they claim to love anymore.  Oh someone please wake me up when these men get their charm back, that’s if they even had appeal to begin with.  Men need to learn that before and during the course of a relationship women long for a man to make her feel special and very few are getting romanced like they supposed to lately…

Where’s the game at brother?  Maybe forgot it somewhere? That game that some guys think they possess doesn’t go beyond the basketball court.  I don’t even remember the last time a man has tried to impress me (or maybe I’m just living on the wrong planet) I haven’t even heard a sister tell me a jaw dropping story of how she and her man got together.  It’s funny how lately I’ve been hearing a simple “Sister I ‘aint tryna impress you, I just want to get to know you better” and how exactly are you supposed to get to know me better if you haven’t tried to impress me at all?  Can someone please explain this ideology to me because clearly I’ve been living in a bubble or under a huge rock or maybe I’ve been a sleeping beauty woken up by a Prince ‘I’m NOT trying to charm you’.
Did I wake up in a age where NOT impressing is impressive?  I don’t know you tell me, I might have been sleeping through God knows how many centuries.
I think this ‘getting straight to the point’ Doctrine is interfering with the escapade of finally calling someone your own after days of carving  notions of what you are willing to contribute towards the relationship.  There is something extraordinary that happens in the human mind when someone has worked hard to get something…A sense of achievement! What happens in a woman’s mind is that if a man is willing to work this hard to get me in his life then I’m pretty sure he will do just the same to keep me.

Show me anyone who will give up what they acquired through back breaking, dragon slaying work without a fight and I’ll show you a half baked man/woman.  Remember that what is worth having is worth fighting for.

You get out what you put in, you cannot contribute 1% and expect the outcome to be 20%.  How on earth do you expect to get with someone if you don’t make an effort? It’s like trying to create a life without the sperm!  A wise woman once said “A man has to go through some kind of obstacle to get a woman he wants, or it will be evident to him how much he desires her.  A man will do anything he can to make it past that barrier so he will not be robbed of the one he desires”

Men don’t need to shroud her with a million roses to show he cares…trust me one rose picked on the side of the road will make her smile the whole day, now I’m not saying every man must go on a rose picking spree…Y’all should know that not all girls love flowers be creative, but you get my train of thought? Hopefully.  Society has distorted the true meaning of courting in a way that value is not found in something that money can’t buy.  Then Brother man you need to create another way of sweeping that girl off her feet, for instance I’m the kind of girl who will appreciate a letter written from the heart because there is nothing more special than having your heart on paper (do people still write letters? Or have they resorted to wall-to-wall posts? I’m just checking)  so not having enough money is not an excuse.  You make a woman feel more special when you don’t have the means but you still try!

So what extraordinary story are you going to tell your children one day?  “You see my baby I met your mother in a pub and I asked for her number and before I could even finish my sentence she was my wife?” wow how ‘delightful’
Now women are as faulty.  ‘Playing hard to get’ is a word that needs to be framed in a museum somewhere.  Mind you there is a difference in a little teasing and playing impossible, I think the guys will agree that a little teasing excites them right?
Men love chasing, don’t take the privilege away by being too easy sister because what happens at the back of a man’s mind is “If I could penetrate that easily then how many other men are capable?” Pun intended!

The point is men like chasing and women like being chased and please don’t even try impose the 21st century reformation of women hunters on this article, that’s a topic for another day!

Signed: Bonny-Blue

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  • PAUL

    I love this letter, and will pass it on to as many of my male counterparts as I can. And… yes it is true that we(men) will VALUE MORE that which we have had MANY OBSTACLES to obtain, have and hold. After 16 years of on again, off again hell and bitterness, the one that I have always held dearest in my heart because SHE WAS MY CHOICE… AND MORE IMPORTANTLY I BELIEVE GOD’S CHOICE FOR ME… finally began to come together and rather quickly. Viewing the results, I’d say that all we(my gonna be & I) have been through together has prepared me, us for the future that we are about to embark on. And what a great story we have of how we met in the T.P. isle at Target and I knew at that moment THIS WAS THE ONE. So, here we are 16 years later still standing.

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  • Bonny

    @ George I get what you are saying but men and women have different roles to play in society and I’m not saying that it’s left entirely to a man to make sure the relationship is worth holding on to, but I do believe that a man has a certain role to play before the relationship begins in setting up a ground for a woman to be comfortable enough to reciprocate to his chase…We cannot fight the way we were designed whether educated or not.

    @ Donald thank you…haha you shall not be crucified for the truth (atleast not by me) even though people are killed for the trith all the time!

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  • Donald The Neosapien

    This article had me absolutely enthralled!!! Well done on a brilliant article man!!! I agree with you on a lot of things there, some things need not be altered because of advancements in technology. Oh and there is a distinct difference between ‘hard to get’ and ‘impossible’ it is quite gauche for women to be oblivious to this. I guess both sexes have contributed to this unfortunate situation. The easy women have made men less willing to be creative.(yes I am aware that it is a sweeping statement so please do not kill me).

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  • Some things transcent race, continent and age. Chasing is a dumb concept IMHO. I cannot tell you of the relationships I walked away from early in my career building phase, when I was expected to chase… er court as we say. That is the phase of life for men when we are finally through getting educated to be productive mates and fathers. I had achieved a degree of education, and affluence and I was ‘worth it’. I don’t say that in an egotistical way, but it kinda is. I was worth getting chased back. So the point: from first greeting to committing publically to be a couple, this is a mutual quest. It can ebb and flow, dating can be a bit of dominant-recessive role playing, but it in reality has to be a game played on the whole field.

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  • Bonny

    Thank you for taking the time to read this!

    @Mo If there is one thing I realised is that Brothers love the Chase!

    @Lerato Those are questions I keep asking myself almost all the time, I guess different people have their own way of weighing Value!

    @Neli 🙂 it is indeed my point of view and I’m pretty certain that somebody out there is looking at this from a different angle!

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  • Neli

    Ha ha ha ha, this was a breath 0f fresh air =). I disagree with y0u 0n s0me 0f y0ur statements because they’re generalisati0ns, but I respect that it is y0ur 0pini0n. It’s uneasy f0r me t0 think 0f the c0ncept 0f L0ve and impressing in a single string 0f th0ught…I think L0ve is based purely 0n attracti0n…in m0re than 0ne aspect 0f c0urse =)

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  • Eish gal dis challenges me …not only hv guys stopped chasing and wooing us, but we as well have not allowed the chase by choosing to give in at the drop of a hat. This turn of events must hav sum driving force behnd it. Have we sistahs becum desperate? Hav we forgotten our worth as sistahs? Are we at a place where perhaps when a guy hits on u we find ita favour? Ja ne…

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  • mo

    its a good read,i think a lot of brothers and sisters need to read this and get a new refined perspective on the matter…KEEP US CHASING LADIES!

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  • PAUL

    I love this letter, and will pass it on to as many of my male counterparts as I can. And… yes it is true that we(men) will VALUE MORE that which we have had MANY OBSTACLES to obtain, have and hold. After 16 years of on again, off again hell and bitterness, the one that I have always held dearest in my heart because SHE WAS MY CHOICE… AND MORE IMPORTANTLY I BELIEVE GOD’S CHOICE FOR ME… finally began to come together and rather quickly. Viewing the results, I’d say that all we(my gonna be & I) have been through together has prepared me, us for the future that we are about to embark on. And what a great story we have of how we met in the T.P. isle at Target and I knew at that moment THIS WAS THE ONE. So, here we are 16 years later still standing.

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  • Bonny

    @ George I get what you are saying but men and women have different roles to play in society and I’m not saying that it’s left entirely to a man to make sure the relationship is worth holding on to, but I do believe that a man has a certain role to play before the relationship begins in setting up a ground for a woman to be comfortable enough to reciprocate to his chase…We cannot fight the way we were designed whether educated or not.

    @ Donald thank you…haha you shall not be crucified for the truth (atleast not by me) even though people are killed for the trith all the time!

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  • Donald The Neosapien

    This article had me absolutely enthralled!!! Well done on a brilliant article man!!! I agree with you on a lot of things there, some things need not be altered because of advancements in technology. Oh and there is a distinct difference between ‘hard to get’ and ‘impossible’ it is quite gauche for women to be oblivious to this. I guess both sexes have contributed to this unfortunate situation. The easy women have made men less willing to be creative.(yes I am aware that it is a sweeping statement so please do not kill me).

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  • Some things transcent race, continent and age. Chasing is a dumb concept IMHO. I cannot tell you of the relationships I walked away from early in my career building phase, when I was expected to chase… er court as we say. That is the phase of life for men when we are finally through getting educated to be productive mates and fathers. I had achieved a degree of education, and affluence and I was ‘worth it’. I don’t say that in an egotistical way, but it kinda is. I was worth getting chased back. So the point: from first greeting to committing publically to be a couple, this is a mutual quest. It can ebb and flow, dating can be a bit of dominant-recessive role playing, but it in reality has to be a game played on the whole field.

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  • Bonny

    Thank you for taking the time to read this!

    @Mo If there is one thing I realised is that Brothers love the Chase!

    @Lerato Those are questions I keep asking myself almost all the time, I guess different people have their own way of weighing Value!

    @Neli 🙂 it is indeed my point of view and I’m pretty certain that somebody out there is looking at this from a different angle!

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  • Neli

    Ha ha ha ha, this was a breath 0f fresh air =). I disagree with y0u 0n s0me 0f y0ur statements because they’re generalisati0ns, but I respect that it is y0ur 0pini0n. It’s uneasy f0r me t0 think 0f the c0ncept 0f L0ve and impressing in a single string 0f th0ught…I think L0ve is based purely 0n attracti0n…in m0re than 0ne aspect 0f c0urse =)

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  • Eish gal dis challenges me …not only hv guys stopped chasing and wooing us, but we as well have not allowed the chase by choosing to give in at the drop of a hat. This turn of events must hav sum driving force behnd it. Have we sistahs becum desperate? Hav we forgotten our worth as sistahs? Are we at a place where perhaps when a guy hits on u we find ita favour? Ja ne…

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  • mo

    its a good read,i think a lot of brothers and sisters need to read this and get a new refined perspective on the matter…KEEP US CHASING LADIES!

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